"I'm too busy," "I can't cope," "I'm too tired," "I don't have enough energy," "It's because of X." Whatever story you tell yourself on a daily basis will massively impact how you show up and the results you create.
I love the quote, “You can either make excuses or make progress; you can’t do both.”
Even though some of us may already know this information, unless you are conscious of your thoughts, you’ll have very little ability to change them.
So, if you want to change your life, you really have to observe what you are thinking.
As well as this, I would also ask you to look at the biggest statement that you hold onto and believe, which you realize is a core limiting belief. For example, it could be, “I’ll never be a millionaire,” or “I’m an imposter and soon people will realize I can’t do my job.”
All of this is like a backpack of emotions that, if we keep carrying around with us and not dipping in to check on what they are telling us and how they are affecting us, we will keep moving on, applying the same actions and habits, and generating the same results.
Negative thoughts can impact us in the following ways: lower energy, procrastination, lack of motivation, and feeling overwhelmed. All of these symptoms then confirm the story we tell ourselves, keeping us stuck in a cycle of limitations.
What you are thinking about provides clues as to what is going well in your life and what is not happening for you.
You might be someone who is trying to focus on a desired outcome or specific goals, and you might even have a pretty vision board and really want to see change. But if you have the same personal story, you won’t generate your desired results. We are wired from past experiences and beliefs, and if we aren’t doing the work to understand them and disconnect from them, they will still hold power over us.
A huge part of the work that I do with clients is to get them to understand themselves on a deeper level. Once we know this, we can then start to impact our beliefs, thoughts, actions, and results.
Steps and tips to change your personal story:
Awareness: Start by becoming aware of your inner dialogue. Keep a journal and write down the recurring thoughts and beliefs that shape your daily actions and emotions.
Challenge Limiting Beliefs: Identify the beliefs that hold you back. Ask yourself, “Is this belief absolutely true?” Often, you’ll find that these beliefs are based on past experiences, not current reality.
Replace Negative Thoughts: Once you’ve identified a limiting belief, replace it with a positive affirmation. For example, change “I’ll never be a millionaire” to “I am capable of achieving financial success.”
Visualisation: Spend a few minutes each day visualising your desired outcome. Picture yourself succeeding, feeling confident, and living the life you want. This helps rewire your brain to focus on positive possibilities.
Take Action: Small, consistent actions lead to big changes. Set achievable goals and take steps every day toward them. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
Seek Support: Surround yourself with positive influences. Whether it’s a mentor, coach, or supportive friends, having a strong support system can make a significant difference.
By implementing these steps, you can start to rewrite your personal story, break free from limiting beliefs, and create a reality that aligns with your true potential.
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